Sunday, August 18, 2013

Are You Building Your Husband Up?

Proverbs 21:9  "It is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife."  

 I think that lion would LOVE to be on the housetop right about now.

       Our husband should be treated with the utmost respect. We should not be nagging. We should be building them up to their true potential. You can not build someone up with negative comments. I believe in positive reinforcement. Praise will get you a lot further than complaint.  This is true not only with your husband but with anyone.

For example: You're walking out of the gas station and your husband holds the door open for you. You look them in the eyes and say, "Thank you!" with a smile. Chances are, he is going to hold the door open again. If you had said, "oh, I can get it" and don't smile or make eye contact chances are he won't try to do that again. That goes the same for anyone. When was the last time someone reacted negatively to you doing something? Did you want to that action again?

My husband showed me this. I think it is so funny!

Our husbands have pressure from society just like we do. Expectations that they might not meet, may make them feel like less than a man. We want them to come home and feel like the "Man of the house". We want them to know, we love them for the man that they are not what society says they should be. I think we as ladies expect our husbands to tell us we look beautiful, to maybe bring home flowers every once in awhile, to plan romantic/fun dates, or do sweet things for us but are we telling them how much we appreciate their hard work, how nice they look all dressed up for work, how much we appreciate when they help out around the house, or when they spend time with the kids while you get that project (or maybe a bubble bath) done sans children?

Today take a moment today and build your husband up!

Linking up with Living Proverbs 31.


  1. What a good reminder to build up our husband. Thanks so much!! Great post!! I followed you over from Living Proverbs 31 today.

  2. I try to always remember to do this... but I know I don't do it as well or as often as I should. Thank you for the reminder!

    1. I struggle daily! I think I tend to be too focused on me and the ups and downs of the day. Thanks for stopping by! :)

  3. This is a great reminder. I've written similar blog posts. I struggle with this one lately because my husband is working so darn much. I'm trying to show him appreciation for his work, but in the same token I want him to work less (at the very least work smarter with the time he's there so he can get home.) Of course, women and men think differently when it comes to work.

    Glad you posted this as a gentle reminder!